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“You’re pregnant, congratulations!” Everyone joyfully exclaims, they are all aware this is your rainbow baby 🌈. They are all happy and excited for this new adventure you are on.
But you’re not quite there yet.
Yes, you are grateful that you are pregnant again.
…This is what you wanted…
But you can’t seem to get excited and happy about it yet, because the last time you did…. it ended with heartbreak.
It feels as though everyone is way more excited than you are.
You may feel guilty that you are not excited about this pregnancy.
But let me stop you right there, mama!
THIS IS NORMAL!
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Going through a miscarriage can change your delicate view of pregnancy.
I know it did for me!
I was so jealous of my friends who had never endured the pain of pregnancy loss.
They NEVER had to sit in a doctors office while the doctor whispered, “…I’m sorry”
Or the friend who NEVER had to make the hard decision of waiting for labor to begin or to induce it.
The friend who NEVER had to go to a funeral home and bring their teeny baby ashes home.
I would NEVER wish it upon anyone!
But, here they were, blissfully unaware of the physical and emotional pain I had gone through…
And continue to go through despite this miracle that had grown from within me.
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I so deeply wanted to live in the bliss of not knowing what a pregnancy loss felt like.
I didn’t want to just be happy during my future pregnancies, but I wanted to be joyful!
To me happy is fleeting, that emotion comes and goes like the wind.
You can be happy one minute, then mad the next.
But joyful is a deep, unshakable, from within feeling that no matter what, you will have joy!
Action steps:
1. Pray and ask God to help you with your thoughts. Ask Him to help you overcome the fear that you feel, ask him to fill you with overwhelming joy!
2. Speak words of life into your everyday. “Today I am filled with joy that my baby is safe within me”.
“Every moment that I carry my baby is a blessing”.
3.Find joy in all the small things, rejoice in them, find the good in everyday that you carry your rainbow baby. Did you feel baby kick? Take a deep breath and soak it in. Savor the moments.
4. One thing that may give you instant peace in your pregnancy is a fetal doppler monitor that you can use during your pregnancy to hear your baby’s heartbeat . But use with caution because it may be hard to find your baby’s heartbeat and thus causing more stress.
The more you practice these steps the easier it will become till eventually it be aimed second nature.
“Do not let your past pains dictate your current joy!”
I didn’t want to look back at my rainbow baby’s pregnancy and remember feeling fear.
I took these small everyday steps and it really helped me to enjoy my pregnancy with my rainbow baby.
I hope that you too will find the joy and excitement in your pregnancy:)
These are some great tips to get excited. I imagine it could be tough.
Indeed, don’t let the past dictate your current joy. Unfortunately we cannot change the past and the sadness it brought, but we can enjoy the moment we live in now.
It was hard to enjoy my rainbow baby. I worried a lot and needed to feel the baby kick before I got excited.
I’ve never heard of Rainbow baby before but I hear you!!!! I am so happy you’re pregnant but I do understand the fear.
Oh man I never thought about how scary this can be! Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us!
I could not imagine the mix of emotions with a rainbow baby. I have never experienced this, but my sister has and I remember it being a mix of emotions.
My last baby is a rainbow baby. It was so hard. Even to this day it is very emotional for me. He is 8 now. And I love him so incredibly much. And I wouldn’t change it. But I always wonder about the baby that didn’t come home with us and miss her so much. I believe that God will reunite all of us. I just need to be patient.
I am pregnant after a misscairrage. It’s hard to explain, but the baby I lost was perfect. I just want her/him back. I want to bring my baby home. I can’t be excited for this one.
Im sorry, it is difficult. There is nothing wrong with not being excited. I hope that you will find comfort and peace as your pregnancy progresses.
I can’t thank you enough for this. My partner and I are talking about trying for a baby. The last time I was pregnant I was 24, not overly attached to it i.e I didn’t want the child as I was just about to start a new job, and I didn’t take care of myself. Of course, this ended in miscarriage.
Now, at 27, I’m regretting not listening to my body and pushing through on minimal food, lots of coffee and basically ignoring the fact I was pregnant. I’m scared to even read the two little lines on a test because what if….
This has really helped me re-think that. Thank you.
I have a close friend who had a similar experience. I cannot begin to imagine the strength it takes to overcome something like this. I love the mantras you provided for Moms that are pregnant with their rainbow baby. My favorite was “Don’t let past pains dictate current joy”.
This is the first time I’ve heard the term “Rainbow Pregnancy”. I am sorry that you experienced that and am thankful that you shared your experience with us.
These are so really awesome helpful tips! All moms should read this!
There are definitely a lot of emotions involved. I’m sure this touches many people
My cousin had a rainbow. It took a lot of strength from her family and friends to keep her positive. Kudos to you for providing mantras for moms carrying rainbow babies.