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So, you are considering sharing your miscarriage via social media.
The constant back and forth of whether you Should post something or not?
Understandably, It’s an emotional battle.
Sharing such a personal and intimate part of your life story is not something to be taken lightly.
I believe there are pros and cons to sharing your story on social media. BUT, this is a very personal decision and only you can decide this for yourself.
In this post, I hope to give you some clarity, if you are considering posting your pregnancy loss on social media.
My loss announcements
I shared my first pregnancy loss on Faceebook when we announced the pregnancy of my now 5 year old daughter.
It went something along the lines of:
“After having a miscarriage, we are happy to announce baby Carpenter Spring 2014”.
I wanted my announcement to share my excitement, yet also honor AND reveal my loss simultaneously to family and friends.
My second loss announcement was much different!
We had already announced our new pregnancy at 12 weeks via Facebook.
It was official now.
The WHOLE facebook world knew we were pregnant again.
At our 15 week appointment, we found out our baby had passed.
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How do I share my miscarriage story?
I was torn…. because on one hand I wanted to keep this loss private for as long as possible….
But, on the other hand, I wanted to tell the world immediately!
I didn’t want friends and family asking me questions like, “how are you feeling? Do you feel the baby moving yet, how far along are you again?”
I couldn’t handle avoiding those questions.
My solution to all of the above was to take one day to myself to really process it.
Because I didn’t want to retell “my story” a million times. I wrote it on my blog. That way no question is left unanswered. The picture below was the Facebook post I wrote with the attached blog article (you can read my story here).
How to announce your miscarriage on social media: Action steps to take.
Below are actions steps you can take now on deciding whether you want to share your pregnancy loss and ideas on how you can share your story with others.
* Where are you most present? (Facebook Instagram, Twitter, etc).
* Where do the people you care about hang out at? (Your friends, family, or your audience?)
* Is there a special date that you could share your loss? (Due date, loss date, a particular holiday that is special for you, etc)?
* How much information do you want to share? (The whole story? A short summary, or just a few sentences?) (there is no “right” or “wrong” answer here, do whatever are comfortable with).
* How will you share your loss? Via a face post? On your blog? Via Facebook live? Instagram stories?
I hope this helps you on your pregnancy loss journey!
-love and hugs!
Ledy:)
This is a great help. Miscarriage is something many of us have a hard time talking about. This post was very helpful I helping me understand my options when discussing miscarriage on social media. It’s very hard to talk about.
This is such a difficult topic to tacklem but you found a way to make it readable and applicable.
Great info for moms in a tough spot.
This is not only a great resource but, in its own way, a beautiful tribute to both of your losses. My heart ached as I read your announcement. But, your announcement helped your friends and family avoid any terrible, hurtful, and awkward conversations later, which is about as selfless as you could possibly be at time like that.
the printable is so cute! this is such a hard subject for most women to talk about but so important